Not only is no one perfect (although in a way you are), but we all seem to carry some heavy flaws too. We have days and situations where we can be stubborn, mean, flaky, absent, too emotional, non-emotional, you name it.
It’s how you work with these flaws that makes you the person you are. It’s easy for me to write. I’ve been writing somber poems and essays since I was a kid. But it’s less easy for me to say the right things to people. Not in all situations, with acquaintances I’m almost always pretty good, but it’s hard for me to communicate sometimes within budding relationships, whatever form they take.
And we all see physical flaws in our selves. I’m going to write a later blog about Body Dysmorphic Disorder, but I’m hoping to convince you with this blog, that it’s not the flaws that matter… it’s how you live your life despite them, and with them.
I was strongly right-brained most of my life. There were times I took those tests and scored close to 100% in right-brained tests. For years I’ve been working with trying to make my left brain stronger, and right now, I’m only 65% right-brained. It’s still right-brained, but it’s more balanced.
We all know the stereotypical left-brained engineer type. Or do we? Typically the severely left-brained person is highly logical, intellectual, and lacking personality. This is so not true. The severely left-brained people I know, do seem to be slightly handicapped without right brained responses, but they work hard at being more creative, and being more sociable. I don’t know anyone, on either side of the spectrum that doesn’t try to make themselves be the best that they can be by overcoming their limitations.
And they’re funny as all get out. I still don’t know a strongly left-brained person without a strong, albeit quiet, sense of humor.
You can’t wish your flaws away. Even perfectionists cannot force, or make themselves to have no flaws. Sorry, you’re just as human as the rest of us.
Living with your flaws and working with them when you can no longer work ‘on’ them, is really the only answer. I used to be really forgetful, but learned through the years that if I have a physical, kinesthetic memory of what I’m trying to remember, that I’m a lot less forgetful (there aren’t that many of us with kinesthetic and auditory memories). Now, I write everything down, either on paper, or in an e-mail to myself, so that the physical act of writing or typing kind of sears the task into my brain. I try to use as many senses as possible to remember, such as repeating it to myself (ears, mouth), touching an object, seeing it written on paper, reading out loud, etc.
Whatever your flaw or flaws are, working with them to the best of your ability, is better than ignoring them and getting frustrated with yourself. Being human, you ARE flawed.
But if you can accept that, than you can realize that you’re perfect too. You really are perfect just the way you are – flaws and all.