Leading the life you want to live, as long as you’re reasonable and have common sense, is possible. It’s not reasonable to assume, for most people, that you’ll have a million dollars in the future and start spending like you already have it. It is however reasonable to say, “Making a million dollars this year is my goal. I will do whatever I ethically can to meet that goal.”
Having that as your goal doesn’t mean it’ll happen either, but it will take you one step closer to living the life you want to live.
Circumstances don’t always make it easy for us to live the lives we want to live, but it’s a worthy fight. If you want to live a life of more harmony or serenity, then you need to make changes in your life to allow for that. Make a peaceful spot in your home to meditate, or put more candles out. If you want to live a life with more excitement, look into courses you can take such as glass blowing, sky diving, or kayaking.
As long as you can define exactly what it is you want in your life, you can make it happen. And if you’re not sure what kind of life you want, take stock of the things that matter most to you. Think of the things that if you could, you would wish for. Eventually you’ll come up with that which you want most of all.
As for me, I know what I want most of all. Family, freedom, security, serenity, love and privacy. I want to be loved by family (including friends) and love deeply in return. I want freedom from manipulation and security to not fear the future. Serenity and love, compassion, understanding and harmony in every relationship in my life, and finally privacy, to go through what I need to go through on my own terms and in my own time, whether I choose to write about it or not.
As you discover those things in your life that you want the most don’t give up. You can have exactly the kind of life that you want. Dreaming and hoping are the best tools that you have to accomplish them!